Straight bars outnumber those geared toward a gay demographic. TIME." —Matt, 27 "If you are gay and in your twenties, chances are you've seen someone write 'drugs and disease free' or 'negative you should be too' in their profiles.
When I step into a predominately heterosexual establishment, I feel like I have to be on guard and really careful with the people I choose to flirt with. HIV impacts everyone, no matter your sexuality, but it's still a hot button issue in the gay community, especially in dating.
So when I started dating, I viewed what I wanted from those examples.But I've learned that those romantic conventions don't work when you are trying to date a queer person.It seems each tribe comes with its own set of rules for dating.I just wish inter-tribal dating/mingling wasn't an issue, but it seems to be for some people.Can't you just date me for me and not be turned on/off by my tan skin?
Why do I have to worry if someone ONLY dates Latin guys? '" —Joaquín, 24 "Nothing's worse than getting a message from a guy online who refuses to show you a picture because they are 'discreet." If you are an out and proud gay man, it's hard to date someone who doesn't want to be seen with you/hold your hand in public.Each guy is at a different place in their gay maturity.Though I respect that, I still want to find someone in a similar place of coming out.Their pictures were years old, and we didn't have the same interests/conversations we had online.It's become a thing to hide behind a virtual wall and become something you're not.Buzz Feed reached out to some of those gay twentysomethings to tell us some of their difficulties when trying to date.