The researchers also found rather weak effects of similarity, a finding probably due to the brief interactions these individuals engaged in.
Most certainly, it takes more time than 3-minutes to form a deep connection. They found that the chances of mating (i.e., having sex) with a speed-dating partner was 6%, whereas the chances of relating (i.e.
The short time period of interaction could skew the results as you have 3 minutes to make a judgment call on someone and you have to take everything at face value so you can be a total narcissistic a-hole but you don't have to let them know that for 3 minutes.
The arguments for this seem either forced or just speculation because it seems that men who prefer casual encounters or are willing to engage in such, are less likely to want a long-term commitment.However, those that do engage in such short-term relationships do admittedly flirt and grab women's attention in that 3 minute window better and perhaps this is the flaw of the study.Participants went on a series of 3-minute dates and indicated whom they would like to see again.They were followed-up by the researchers six weeks and 12 months after the speed-dating session.Another reason may be that those with a short-term mating orientation may have been more extraverted, and their extraverted behaviors were noticed and remembered more.
Other research has shown that Extraverts do better than introverts in a rapid mating context such as speed dating (Luo & Zhang, 2009; also see : the more shy the man appeared, the less popular the man.Mind you, we're not going to get your adrenaline running 24/7 like those other guys but then again we won't treat you like second class citizens more often than not.I've already witnesses women saying one thing and chasing after the complete opposite and it simply goes back to the age old question: "What the hell do women want?Sociosexuality and shyness did a better job predicting popularity in this speed dating context than the personality traits extraversion and neuroticism, which are correlated with sociosexuality and shyness, respectively (sociosexuality with extraversion, shyness with neuroticism).The researchers relate this finding to the bandwidth-fidelity trade-off found in personality research, in which "narrower traits that are tailored to specific situational contexts and behaviours often outperform broader traits in predictive power, whereas broader traits often outperform narrower traits if the goal is to predict many different behaviours in many different contexts." once physical attributes were already taken into account, and also provided additional prediction of popularity above and beyond physical attractiveness.To further put things in perspective, the researchers converted these percentages into the time and money spent on multiple speed-dating events, assuming that all the events are independent in terms of outcome and that each event costs 30 Euros (roughly ) and lasts 3 hours. It's been in my experience that most women want a man who "is sweet and will treat them with respect and as equals" and yet they will fall head over heels for shallow men simply because they're exciting and a challenege and they believe they can save the guy from his immoral ways.