I would never have predicted that I would end up preferring women to make the first move. In my dating life I’d estimate initiative has been shared relatively evenly between myself and the other person.
I’m not hesitant to approach someone I like, but I’m also not someone who is supremely confident talking to women.
Talking to my female friends who use dating apps, an average female would get hundreds of matches, hundreds of messages, dozens and dozens of requests to meet.And of course there is a smattering (perhaps more) of inappropriate messages and pictures as well.I was happy to let someone else do that for a change.But the biggest difference was around intent - and that difference changed the whole experience throughout.I’m sure it also meant they weren’t being bombarded with hundreds of responses over the course of a day as well.
Compared to other apps I used, these conversations resulted in more face-to-face meetings and these dates were more fun.
But preferring to wait and let someone do the hard work to initiate contact?
That contradicts what I have been told my entire life about women being “attracted to confidence”, and “people respond well to someone who is respectful but assertive”.
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