If you put your arm around someone on a date, what are you saying (without using words)? And that's exactly why we have to be careful - because we could be telling lies with our actions.
This is a major reason why people get hurt, and why there's heartache.
Regarding the difficult issue of same-sex marriage, for those who are wondering about possible reasons for the Church's position, I would suggest considering some of the relevant social issues as discussed by a non-LDS advocate of traditional marriage in the article "Marriage: What It Is, Why It Matters, and the Consequences of Redefining It" by Ryan Anderson (2013).
The bride pulled her aside and said, "Do you know what I regret? " "I regret that I have kissed so many guys." "Really? I asked my husband, 'How many girls have you kissed? You just want bridesmaids and flowers and cake and a clean, worthy young man or young woman who stuck to his or her standards, as you did. How do you want to feel about your past when you're looking into the eyes of your new husband or wife?
In short: Save your kisses; you may need them one day. Well, you can make it happen just the way you want if you plan it now! In describing moral transgressions, the words that adults use sometimes confuse youth.
In contrast, if you give out your kisses like free samples at the grocery store, what are they worth? I think three.'" This bride was embarrassed, because she had given out kisses like pretzels.
About the same as free samples at the grocery store! One of my friends had an interesting experience at a wedding reception. When you go to your wedding, you don't want regrets to go with you.
": All of us can communicate loud and clear without using words. I'd like to do this again very soon.'" You may laugh at first, but think about that for a minute. We communicate loud and clear with our actions, and if we're not careful, we could be telling lies! Ashton: You mean, you can be dishonest by kissing someone? If putting your arm around someone means "I like you," and holding hands means "I really like you," than maybe kisses mean "I love you." What do you think?
In fact, as the old saying goes, "Actions speak louder than words." With that idea in mind, let's ask some questions. Some will say, "I don't know about that; I don't think kisses mean I love you." Perfect. Maybe kisses mean something different to you than they do to me, or to him, or her.
When I was 16, I remember a Church leader talking to a number of the young men and telling us not to neck or pet when we went on dates.
I nodded my head, and then went home to look up "petting" in the dictionary. Then I looked up "fondling" and read something about touching.
He knows that all have a limit to their resistance....
Almost like twins, "petting"-and especially "heavy petting"-and fornication are alike.
Petting is a formal word that refers to touching of private areas, particularly breasts or genitals (in the latter case, it's often called "heavy petting"). Instead of remaining in the field of simple expressions of affection, some have turned themselves loose to fondling, often called "necking," with its intimate contacts and its passionate kissing.