When Becky asked him how long he'd been divorced, he admitted that it wasn't final yet, that he was living in the basement of the home that he and his wife shared, and that they'd only been separated for three weeks.
Becky gently told her date that he needed to first pursue emotional and spiritual healing. But dating so soon will almost inevitably lead to heartache, since he's neither emotionally nor legally available.
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.Be aware that when you commit to remain celibate until you remarry, there may be some people who will try to convince you that you are being unreasonable. Instead, run the other direction and resolve to date only fellow believers who share your convictions.The Bible is clear about this: Maintaining your sexual integrity is not optional; neither is getting romantically involved with someone who doesn't share your faith (2 Cor. Above all, God wants to come first in all you do (Matthew ). During that time, several men have come and gone from her life.She suggested that he develop relationships with other Christian men for support, rather than seek out women for emotional comfort. And, until he heals, he won't be able to relax and commit his entire heart to his new partner the way God intends.
To begin healing, you'll want to seek counsel from committed Christians who are willing to walk through the grief process with you.Whenever Sharon meets someone new, she hopes that "this is the one," and Branden does, too.Sadly, when Sharon's relationships don't work out, not only is her heart broken, but so is her son's.This may mean seeking out your pastor for support, joining a Divorce Recovery group or visiting a Christian counselor.Some divorced church-goers try to convince themselves that God's command to abstain from sex doesn't apply to them — that it's for the never-married crowd.After experiencing the comforts of marriage, it can be tempting to settle for less than God's best.