) probably isn’t the best thing for my self-esteem.And, as I continue to meet more men, I've realized that perhaps I been distracting myself from the lingering pain of my last relationship and the uncertainty of my career.
“I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship,” she explains.
“I was ready to get back out there, but I definitely wasn't looking for anything ‘real.’ Just people to spend time with, drink cocktails with, and get naked with.”“Rotations allow you to date other people at the same time, giving you perspective on the dating process,” says April Masini, relationship expert and author of the column, Ask April.
Within a month of attempting to maintain my rotation, though, I disappointed one guy enough to get the, “I need to respect myself and not see you anymore” text. Even though I was into him and disappointed he wanted to cut the cord, I knew I wasn’t ready to be a girlfriend again so soon.
(Despite the old-school belief that men are born to "sow their wild seeds," some men want monogamy, too, duh.)Gretchen, a 30-year old producer living in Los Angeles, says relationships in her rotation also seem to be short-lived.
My many relationships have fallen somewhere between a string of not-so-great first dates and being in love.
I've enjoyed the fun aspects of being with a partner without being tied down to one person emotionally.
Now that I'm older, I usually tend to only have strong feelings for one guy at a time.”Though dating a horde of people can feel fun and freeing, for most adventurers, it isn’t entirely sustainable.
“I don’t plan on dating this way forever,” Monica says.
One guy in my aforementioned Notes section is simply labeled as “The Best,” and another man isn’t even on the list, since I so easily remember everything about him.
So far, I've been able to balance my strong affection for multiple men, but not everyone finds this easily attainable (or even desirable). A.-based Elle, 26, says, “When I was younger, I might have liked more than one guy.
While they’re serial dating, they’re losing out on opportunities to date other great people.” agrees.