But see, for men who covet younger women, it’s not whether you look good for your age – it’s what age you really are. If she wants to date a guy who is 6’2”, makes 0,000 , likes skiing, is within ten miles of her house and five years of her age, you know what? All she has to do is go on Match.com, and wade through a few thousand applicants. There are many other things that are attractive about older men. They can afford nicer restaurants and vacations and have cultivated greater tastes in the arts.They’re more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than a twentysomething party boy.But I do know women, and lots of women in their 20’s. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the 28-year-old women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows what Snapchat is. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the EXCEPTION. Well older man usually don’t have sex they spend quality time with their loved ones and they make love.
An older man’s going to be the strong, nurturing guy who takes care of her, teaches her, and treats her like a princess – the kind of relationship that she probably lacked growing up.Hey, I’m no psychologist – just your friendly, neighborhood dating coach. Whether we like it or not, there is nearly a full generation gap between 28 and 45.And yet, they probably resemble Penelope’s dad more than they resemble her brother….This is the most compelling reason behind why younger women might go for older men: they’re daddy substitutes.But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.
If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.The ability to talk about anything with her was refreshing and engaging.In fact, when I first met her, I didn't know I was attracted to an 'older' woman.I knew she was older than I, but I didn't realize the disparity in age until she told me (which didn't happen until a couple of dates into our relationship).Pat offered me space, devotion and herself, which I couldn't find in anyone else. She is a best friend who reflects back to me what a good person I am, which builds my confidence and self-esteem.(I was 39 and she was 55 then.) Our relationship is unique, because it's not just built on sex, but on trust, respect and love.