Give yourself, and your ex, time to heal and evaluate.According to an article at Psychology Today.com, it's critical to take some time for yourselves before trying to reunite.If you're the person dating your friend's ex, you've got a much harder job.
Maintain your distance: You probably don't want to get any closer to the action than you need to, so when you're stuck in the same social scene, take the seat at the opposite end of the table, or strike up a conversation with the cute guy or girl at the other end of the bar.
Until you're comfortable with the situation, it's best to avoid confrontation -- it can only make you upset and say or do something you may regret.
For instance, if you always disagreed on whose family to spend holidays with or the way discipline should be handled with your kids, this is the time to hammer out those differences.
Forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean that what your ex did was OK, it just means you are choosing to work past the old issues and hurt and start over.
Dating your ex can be a positive thing or a nightmare.
To keep things on a positive note, follow certain guidelines.For most people, when all is said and done, it will be more about how you handled the situation versus the situation itself.What won't be excused is dishonesty -- for example, making your friend believe it's "nothing serious" when it really is, or lying about where you really were on Friday night when you bailed on that group dinner.Date other people if you want, and make the personal changes you both need to make in order to be better partners in the future. It's easy to slide right back into old habits, but remember that the relationship you two had before didn't work, so trying again with a fresh approach can be helpful.Don't go right back to eating dinner in front of the TV. Go on dates with your ex the way you did when your relationship was new: out to dinner, the movies, long walks ... And there's no need to see each other every day -- slow down and enjoy the dating period.(*A note here: Of course, there are varying degrees of gravity -- a former fling may be less of a big deal than a serious relationship, and if we're talking about a recent ex-husband or ex-wife and your friend, well, then, we'll go out on a limb and say that perhaps you should reconsider your friendship unless there is an extremely unique circumstance.) If you've found yourself facing this situation as the person whose friend and ex are now dating, here are a few tips on how to handle yourself with style and grace: Have a support system handy: It's nice to ask one or two close friends to help you out.