With a tipsy grin I shot back, “Oh please, we’re all adults here.
Because of this, women often won’t signal their interest first.
And they won’t talk about anything sexual until you do.
She may challenge you and put you on the spot about why you’re asking about this sensitive subject.
The absolute worst things you can do are apologize or try to explain why you didn’t mean to be “weird”.
” Now if you’re naturally discussing a related topic like The movie, past relationships / hookups / dates, online dating, or first kisses — then take that opportunity to move into more intimate topics.
But you can’t always rely on getting “gimmes” like that. You have to take a chance and lead into these sexual subjects.
All you’re going to do is reinforce that this subject is shameful and wrong.
Instead, you want her to feel this is something natural, normal, and FUN to talk about. Mine was horrible…I remember being so nervous that when I first went in to kiss her, I shoulder checked her instead.
Your attitude has to convey that they’re a healthy part of building a romantic connection.
I’m not expecting you walk up to random women with questions women like that. In fact, I’ve found that while that approach can work, you usually get a much stronger response and connection if you wait until later in the conversation.
But to consider having sex with you, a woman has to about sex — especially with you.