What he's doing is called "mirroring." He has no real identity, so he sucks yours up and mirrors it back to you. Try to check out his stories -- call hospitals if you need to -- but don't be surprised if he has an excuse for why you can't find any record of any of his traumas. Psychopaths are also known to disappear for days at a time.
Be sure, the silent treatment and disappearing act will be laid squarely at your feet. Psychopaths love to work you up into a state of obsessive frenzy, so to do that, they idealize you, give you fabulous sex, and then begin pulling away and "triangulating." This is when they introduce other people into the mix to make you jealous.
It's the only thing that doesn't fuel his games and ego.
He will make that difficult for you -- some psychopaths will stalk you, most will Hoover.
It's all an act so he can get you back into the fold.
The only way to get rid of a psychopath is to completely go no contact.
He doesn’t care how many partners you’ve had; it’s all in the past. To find out the answer, fall back to the fundamentals: identifying the addict is the first step. One-night stands, extra-marital affairs, GPS hook-ups, obsessive online dating.
And when it comes to sex addiction, that first step is a doozy. The list is long and gets darker the further down you go: compulsive masturbation, exhibitionism, voyeurism, prostitutes.As we've reported in the the Fix, sex addiction is not recognized by the American Psychiatric Association as a diagnosable disorder.It made an appearance in the 1987 version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), but has subsequently been removed.If you had a tough childhood, he will say something like, "We both had it rough. Whatever he says about the other people in his life is pretty much exactly what he'll be saying about you at some point, so listen carefully. Did he miraculously beat cancer but it could come back at any minute? Once he has you hooked, you'll find yourself begging for sex because he suddenly won't want it anymore. Like you might be cooking dinner and suddenly he blurts, "I'm crazy you know." Or "I'm cheating on you." He will then either deny he said it or play it off as a joke. Once psychopaths have you hooked after the "love bombing" and "idealization" phase, they then begin to devalue you.That's why we understand each other." If there's an obscure book you love, he will make sure he loves it too. Pay careful attention to what a psychopath says on the first few dates about his exes and other people in his life. Does he break his foot on your second date and has to cancel? ) Did he lose his first wife in a car accident that left him with brain trauma (yet he talks fine and seems fine)? Everyone wants great sex, but those who have been with a psychopath often say it's the best thing they've ever experienced. A form of keeping you off balance -- but also possibly an unconscious slip of the mask of his persona. The first step in that is usually to give you the silent treatment over something.So unless you know the signs, you'd probably get sucked into the life of a psychopath and not know who he or she really was until you are completely sucker punched. He will play into every fantasy and insecurity you have.