Jesus gave this instruction with a promise: (Matthew ).When a person makes a growing relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ the foundation of all decisions—as he or she seeks God’s kingdom—God will provide all that is needed, including the marriage partner prepared by God just for that person.
Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other.
Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage.
Since the boundaries of the relationship are self-determined, the couple may easily succumb to temptation and fail to consider their responsibility to honor each other in purity and genuine love.
A couple participating in courtship seeks the accountability of their parents or other mentors.
Although the termination of a courtship most likely will be painful, damage and hurt—which can lead to bitterness—can be avoided.
Both parties, as well as their families and all the people who love them, should continue to trust in the Lord and accept the grace He gives to deal with any disappointment or unfulfilled hopes. The main difference between dating and courtship involves the goals to be reached by spending time with a potential marriage partner.
(See Proverbs , .)The potential for a young person's heart to be broken, and for there to be great pain is there in a courtship just as it is in dating.
There is a godly way to date without placing on the relationship all of the rules, regulations, and strains of courtship.
In a dating relationship, self-gratification is normally the basis of the relationship.
Instead of focusing on God’s pleasure, the couple is often looking for personal pleasure.
(See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm , Romans , Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.) Because each individual, family, and set of circumstances is unique, each courtship will be unique.